Today is thirty-seven days, which is five weeks and two days of the Omer. גבורה שביסוד, Gevurah ShebeYesod, Discipline / Boundaries of Bonding.
Building community, and developing relationships are sacred tasks. You must hold space for yourself while committing to others. Similarly, you need to allow others space for themselves.
This tension can be particularly difficult for parents to manage. One spouse might need time to decompress from work. The other may feel they are relied on for too much of the familial duties. Or perhaps you share the duties, but are exhausted that you’ve lost a sense of self separate from parent and worker.
Discipline can also mean holding yourself accountable for your thoughts and actions. In times of stress, do you yell? Or do you become passive aggressive? Neither reaction is healthy bonding. Often, we need to be mindful and work diligently to overcome patterns of response we unconsciously developed during childhood.
May you have the strength to reflect on the discipline of your bonding. And may you have the space you need to relax and to grow into yourself.